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How to 'Express Feelings'

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I’ve come to discover that, in life, for every situation that you may find yourself in, there are basically two ways to handle it - the right way... and the wrong way.

Take the other day for example. It was one of those days where absolutely everything seemed to go wrong from the minute I opened my eyes in the morning till the second I eventually fell asleep at night. The only consolation of my eventual demise will be the fact that I’ll never have to deal with days like that again.

I won’t go into the nasty details, but by six o’clock I was stomping around with a look of black thunder on my face and killer daggers shooting out of my eyes at every innocent passerby – man, woman or child - who had the audacity to be in the same hundred-mile radius as me. And then, at exactly four minutes past six, somebody made the huge mistake of asking me how I was feeling.

What they actually said was - "What the hell is your problem?"

This is the wrong way.

All the pent-up frustration of the day came bursting forth onto the shoulders of this one person. My reply cannot be printed here without severely offending anyone of a delicate disposition. Suffice to say that it lasted twenty-three minutes, contained more body parts than Grey’s Anatomy (the book and the TV series), and tackled the issue of the person in question’s family tree all the way back to Adam and Eve. And 95% of what I actually said was physically, scientifically or chronologically impossible.

This, you may have gathered, is also the wrong way.

Here, then, is the right way...
 

Asking about Feelings

  • Are you (feeling) alright / angry / upset / pleased / OK...?
  • Is everything alright?
  • What’s wrong?
  • What’s the matter?
  • Do you want to talk about it?
     

Expressing Feelings

  • Well, it’s been a ________ day.
  • Actually,... / The thing is...
  • To be honest... I feel / ‘ve been in a good / bad / etc mood all day...
  • I’m sad / angry / glad about...
  • Thanks for asking, but I really don’t want to talk about it right now...

And just one last thing... if the person you’re about to approach has red eyes and is breathing fire while chewing on broken glass, it is safe to assume that, no, they don’t want to talk about it. In the name of self-preservation, wait till a later date to ‘be there’.

Right... now I’m off to write a letter of apology...

By DANNY

Comments

Thanks Danny.Express

Thanks Danny.Express feelings a big problem for foreign student.

Danny, you were my teacher last year.

You are really good teacher.
I am following you here.
Thanks in advance.

for help to learn english

laxmik sharma.as per mail

danny sir,
can you teach me online as i am a new learenr and don't know how can i learn this language perfectly.

learn English

It is better to start from simple story books with smaller sentences.
This habit make you to a good comprehension. you should not think as you are reading a English story Book. Really you will be involved in story. Then you can say "sorry" to anyone annoying at the time of reading story.

Thanks Chris

Realy I feeling very pleased

day by day i goiing a head..

I love this Language. Anas Legend

How to express feelings - An IMPORTANT LESSON

Try & post some exercise to this lesson

i do

i really shout,deep crying,i am cheerfuly

Emotional nature

Do you know how emotional you are, Danny? ^_^
I have read some of your articles these days and found that you seem always in a bad mood.

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Every witch has her own crystal ball.

How to express feelings

This is a very useful lesson.Ps.try to add an exercise.

How to express feelings

This is a very useful lesson.Ps.try to add an exercise.

Why haven't you added

Why haven't you added exercises to this GREAT LESSON? Dealing with such exercise really helps to keep them in memory.

this is an american english

this is an american english Wink

Is it a common English?

Oh, Danny! Where did you get such vocabulary?...to handle, eventual, demise, stomping, dagger, audacity, frustration, etc...Is it a common English? Thank you , for the article. Smile

Express fellings

smara very useful lesson ,every one needs to express his fellings or he is going to explode thanks

Express feeling

It wasn't an easy lesson to understand. Sometimes I couldn't get it at all. But anyway, it's the one of the best way to practice yourself in comprehending or decryption as I like to call it. Big Grin

Should've done it before

I was lookin for this kinda lesson .I enjoyed doin' it.

I liked some text in it ," I was stomping around with look o' black thunder on my face and killer daggers shootin out o' my eyes at every passerby" 

Thanx for the lesson 

When I asked her is

When I asked her is everything alright with her, she could not control her tears. She told me that it was her bad hair day.